HOW TO PROPOSE: A GUIDE

FOR AWKWARDLY- MODERN- MEN -WHO- LOVE-AWKWARDLY-MODERN-WOMEN

So finally you think you’ve found her, your Helen of Troy, your one. You woke up one morning and you were suddenly overcome quite oddly with a weird feeling of immense gratitude for that thing you did right once in your life (even if you can’t place it) that led you to this very moment. Waking up next to the most beautiful woman in the world, who for some bizarre reason thinks you’re the best thing since sliced bread or whatever. Or you have lunch with a hot ex and realize the one you are with now is the only one you really want or need. So now you’ve decided that the best thing you can do for yourself is to spend whatever time you have left in this world loving her and having as much fun as you possibly can squeeze into a life-time with onother person. Congratulations! You have arrived. Not many make it here. Now follow these three simple steps.

1. Make Sure You Are READY: It’s one thing to ask someone to spend the rest of their life with you, it’s another to spend the rest of your life with someone. So before you ask her that all important question, make sure you’re absolutely sure without a shadow of doubt that she’s the one you really, really want and that you want to be a part of her life as much as you want her to be a part of yours. Make sure that you’ve thought things through. How do you imagine you’ll build a life with her, what will it look like? Are you truly ready to share - everything? Not just material things like paper work, paying bills, deciding on what colour to paint the walls or which insurance to get for your new car. But are you willing to share your spiritual life or the emotional-mental- psychological side of life, which is really the most important. Do you have major life goals you still want to achieve without her? Are there people you still want to see or date? Do you feel like you’re missing out on someone or something better by choosing her? Is the past behind you? More importantly are you willing choose her over your family, if you’re ever forced to choose? Is there no one else for you? Is there someone else more important in your life than her? Are you ready to answer all her questions? Are you ready for the Answer? If you’re sure, sure that you are prepared AND committed to be part of her life for as long as you are alive, then you can move on to step two.

2. ASK HER: There’s no right or wrong way to do this. But please don’t ask about asking i.e. “what if I asked you to marry me? Will you? “ If you’re not sure, don’t ask and don’t ask about asking either. I’m assuming you’ve already discussed your feelings about marriage and or relationships so you know if she’s the marrying type or not. You can find this out without asking her to marry you by having a conversation about your relationship and what you want out of it. Only ask when you’re ready for the answer. Be careful to ask in a way that demonstrates to her that you want to be a part of HER life and that you’ve thought about it carefully, it’s not a decision made on a whim. How you ask will show her that you mean it, which is why it’s important to do it in such a way that she won’t laugh it off as a joke or some prank, even if she does, make sure she knows you’re serious. Think of something special to her, something she cares deeply about (besides you) and include that part in the proposal somehow. It really doesn’t have to be extravagant, expensive or dramatic. Your proposal must be tailor made to suit her personality and character. It must be, more than anything, a demonstration of your commitment to her not just a practical thing to do, but the most loving thing you can do. This is the time to focus on all the little details, because they’ll be the ones that count. When you ask her, she must be your only priority.

3. She’ll be HAPPY: So this is the great part. The one thing that should make step one and step two so much easier. You’re guaranteed one thing, no matter what her answer is: she’ll be glad you asked. Thrilled. Trust me. So Good luck and Have Fun! I hope for you, it’s a YES!